This is a great example of how a woman gives you a test and how you make her want you more and more.....
Her: This isn't going to work, good luck finding a good girl.
Me: Why are you such an ass? (challenge her thinking)
Her: Idk...Because i'm not a patient person and you don't have time for me.....I require a lot of attention (Seeing if you are the guy she wants)
Her: Besides you act like I haven't been a complete ass this entire time.
Her: We don't know there will be a payoff
Me: Trust me it will payoff. (give her something to look forward to)
Her: Idk.... I honestly don't know what you have to offer me.
Me: I am just a good time waiting to happen (be general)
Her: I'm just saying that relationship wise idk how that would play out, your still in school. I live at home, we're both broke, and you are an hour away (looks at the negatives, must keep the convo positive)
Me: Well thats how most relationships start.
Her: But what a way to start something..... A new relationship is already difficult
Me: So do you always cry when something doesn't go your way? (tells her that you aren't going to take her shit)
Her: When something doesn't go my way?? Nothing has going my way! Why do you want to do this when you are so busy??
Me: Well i like your company. ( Be genuine)
Her: Maybe you should consider trying to be with a woman who isn't so much to handle.
Me: Well i wish i knew why i like you.
Her: Hah...Great, you don't even know why you like me!
Her: But you don't know why.
Me: So no one ever knows
Her: That's not true. Most people know why they like someone. I think you like the idea of me...
Me: Idea of you? i don't think it is that sweetheart (be alpha)
Her: Well why don't you talk to me when you figure it out. (don't think that its an ultimatium)
Me:Why should i HAVE to figure it out that wastes more time, i think you just are an excuse maker.
Her: Why are you trying if you don't even know why you like me....That makes no sense!!
Me: Well there considering all we do is text there isn't a whole lot to go off of just yet what are you doing right now? (trying to change the subject)
Her: That's exactly my fucking point....We never can find a time to talk or see each other and I'm tired of it. I'm working.
Me: Well the effort has to go both ways it can't just be all on me. (make her out to be the bad guy)
Her: Stop acting like you actually make some kind of real effort. I've been trying to get you on the phone and your never available except late, and i have a job..
Me: I just don't understand why you are freaking out when all we are doing is talking right now
Her: We're talking? No, we are texting that's not talking. Just forget it, its not going to work we both know it.
Me: See it could work you just don't give a fuck (flip the frame alittle bit)
Her: Oh its going to work by what....Never seeing or talking to you?? Yeah, that's helpful
Me: Well last time i checked texting is talking and you are acting childish. (still going with it)
Her: No its not....We don't talk about anything real and its not a real convo. Idk see why u care anyways...You have nothing invested in me and obiviously can have any other girl.
Me: Your right i could, but that isn't what i want (be alpha, and tell her that you can have any girl)
Her: Why?
Me: Cause i like who you are i think your funny and gorgeous and independent and someone that will challenge me (this is a generalization that all girls love, its in my quick text in my phone)
Her: That doesn't change the fact that I require attention you can't give me.
Me: So because i have a life and not kissing your feet i am the asshole. (the frame is almost flipped)
Her: No....Fuck, I wouldn't want to see you every day but at this rate, i'd see you once or twice a month if that..
Me: No you just have to make it thought this month and i am home every weekend for the summer.
Her: But you aren't going to want to see me every weekend... You have to spend time with your family and friends and i have a family too.
Me: Well i will be home every weekend for softball and i make time for everyone
Her: You say that now.
Me: I say that everyday cause i know how to manage my time
Her: That doesn't mean that the time you have available will be the time i'm available and vice versa...I often have odd times and don't stay out late. (she wants to see you and wants to know you will be there for her)
Me: I have time to make.
Her: Idk, we don't even know each other at all...
Me: All your fault lol (frame is flipped and your in the clear cause of that lol)
Her: Yup along with global wrming 9/11, and Bush being in office for 2 terms
Me: Haha now you understand lol
Her: Your a jackass lol...
Her: Well not too much just having a rough morning...
Me: I figured.
Her: FML...I'm bored, tired, and horny, i really don't think its fair that i am not getting laid.
Me: Haha your adorable. (alpha role achieved and she wants you)
Her: What are you doing tonight?
This was about an hr conversation through text that changed from her hating me and shutting
me out to me coming to see her tonight. Women love to challenge you, just be up for the battle.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Some Keys for Setting Yourself Apart
After having closed on a woman into meeting you for the first time, here are some things to remember.
1) Dress comfortably, yet look good- I like to stay casual, a pair of jeans and a grafix shirt or a comfortable zip down hoodie. Nothing tells a woman that you are yourself when you are confident in what you wear.
2) Cologne is key- Women remember you better when you smell good, I personally like Curve or Lacoste. When you go in for the hug she is going to smell you because of biological coding tells her to pick up your scent. She will go to bed that night thinking about that smell (which means she will be thinking about you)
3) When you go out somewhere, set the tone for fun- If you go out for ice cream or anywhere in particular, make sure to make her feel comfortable so she can let her hair down. When a girl feels comfortable around you, no telling what you can do with her sexually.
4) Your voice is the key to her everything- When you finally do hang out with her, make sure you don't seem nervous. You want to pronounce words slowly and use pauses to make her hang on your every word. Suave once told me "you want to talk like your words are on a rollercoaster, making the sentance go up and down in tone" this is something that has helped me tenfold.
5) Make sure you make contact with her- This is one of the biggest keys i can tell you. Make sure you try to hold her hand at some point within hanging out with her, if you don't make a move she may think you aren't interested. I always throw up a high five and if we are walking somewhere i hold her hand. A good line to use when trying to hold her hand is, "Didn't your mother tell you to look both ways when you are walking?" (then grab her hand) this is 99.9% surefire.
6) Bring protection- Pretty self explainatory. I say this because even if you get to that point, you always have to be prepared. If she askes, "Did you think we were going to have sex?" all you have to say is, "My mom always told me to be prepared, I have a canteen and a tent in my car too if your interested." this will make her laugh and the attention is moved away from it and you can carry on.
Hope these keys help to get you whatever it is your looking for...
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
1) Dress comfortably, yet look good- I like to stay casual, a pair of jeans and a grafix shirt or a comfortable zip down hoodie. Nothing tells a woman that you are yourself when you are confident in what you wear.
2) Cologne is key- Women remember you better when you smell good, I personally like Curve or Lacoste. When you go in for the hug she is going to smell you because of biological coding tells her to pick up your scent. She will go to bed that night thinking about that smell (which means she will be thinking about you)
3) When you go out somewhere, set the tone for fun- If you go out for ice cream or anywhere in particular, make sure to make her feel comfortable so she can let her hair down. When a girl feels comfortable around you, no telling what you can do with her sexually.
4) Your voice is the key to her everything- When you finally do hang out with her, make sure you don't seem nervous. You want to pronounce words slowly and use pauses to make her hang on your every word. Suave once told me "you want to talk like your words are on a rollercoaster, making the sentance go up and down in tone" this is something that has helped me tenfold.
5) Make sure you make contact with her- This is one of the biggest keys i can tell you. Make sure you try to hold her hand at some point within hanging out with her, if you don't make a move she may think you aren't interested. I always throw up a high five and if we are walking somewhere i hold her hand. A good line to use when trying to hold her hand is, "Didn't your mother tell you to look both ways when you are walking?" (then grab her hand) this is 99.9% surefire.
6) Bring protection- Pretty self explainatory. I say this because even if you get to that point, you always have to be prepared. If she askes, "Did you think we were going to have sex?" all you have to say is, "My mom always told me to be prepared, I have a canteen and a tent in my car too if your interested." this will make her laugh and the attention is moved away from it and you can carry on.
Hope these keys help to get you whatever it is your looking for...
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
A ten minute close
If you don't have a lot of time on your hands and don't want to come off as creepy, this is how I 10 minute close online
Me: hey troublemaker
Her: and how am i a troublemaker lol
Me: hey troublemaker
Her: and how am i a troublemaker lol
Me: you just have that look like your up to no good (this is my usual response to that question, it gets a good laugh and you don't come off as creepy and are actually funny)
oh i see
lol
: whats goin on
Her: nothin u
nuttin just got back from class
: waitin for another one to start up at 2
very exciting
Her: sounds excitin
i am on the edge of my seat (over exaggerate on things, it shows creativity)
: lol
i would be to if i had class
haha
: well aren't you the lucky one
Her: yeah i know
lol
: so what do you up to on this fine afternoon (i say this no matter the weather or the time, usually gets a good response. You can also say "what are you doing up sooooo early" no matter the time of day, it works amazing)
and by fine i mean its cold as fuck out
yeah i know
it sucks
i am going to go out on a limb and blame you for the cold
: oh bc i am incharge of weather
alright well i gotta go run some errands
: if ur lucky ill talk to u late (she wants you to work alittle for that number or s/n or email)
Her: haha (THIS MEANS YOU NEED TO GET IT FROM ME, PLEASE ASK)
Me: well how you going to reach me
there's your first problem
idk if ur on here was my only option ' (this says that if you don't get my number or s/n, there is a good chance we aren't talkin anymore)
do you have aim or yahoo
yeah but im rarely on (she is thinking: ASK FOR MY NUMBER)
: i would give you my number (this is the part where you reverse the frame and make it seem like you are the one being worried about her creeping on you)
but i don't know you yet, you might be a stalker
: im not but i know what u mean (this means that she wants my number more than i want her's)
: you promise not to stalk me?
u dont have to give me ur number (if you have ever said this to a girl, this is not good, but because she is saying it to me, i am in control)
: lol
Me: alright then give me yours
and how can i trust u
ive only been talkin to u for ten min (last min resistance, this is really easy to get over)
lol (this "lol" means that she is giving me her number no matter what)
: well if you want to look at it that way ms. negative nancy (i give them a dumb nickname or something and they respone very well to it)
: lol
u were negative thinkin i was a stalker (trying to defend herself)
hahaha
alright heres my number
: (Number given)
Her: whats yours
Me: relax lady
Her: you suck (means she is use to getting what she wants, you have to make her wait, it is usually worth it....TRUST ME)
Me: (Number given)
: text me cause i get bored in my electrical enginnering class (class i am taking)
: haha ok
whats ur name lol (names are like a last second detail don't worry about ever getting a name, its really not that important)
and you?
(her name)
wow!
: weird, my horoscope told me i was going to meet an (insert name here) today
lol
yea right
lol
swear to sweet baby jesus
: mmhmm sure
: hahaha
: well i should let you go, text me around 2ish with something funny (notice how she said she had to go, i changed it so i ended the conversation, very powerful to do)
Me: think you can do that? (compliance test)
Her: idk if it will be funny (most girls are self conscious so they will say this)
haha
its alright, as long as you tried i will totally appriciate it or make fun of you for it
lol
well good to know
later gator
Her: bye
Because i wasn't pushy and actually made it seem like she was the one pursuing me, i was able to close a number without actually having a good conversation. This is due to my confidence and charisma that i bring to the table, try out some new things, don't be afraid to take a chance....
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Saturday, January 10, 2009
You ever ask for a number and get shut down.....
hey troublemaker
: hey there!
: i am that guy that loves peanut butter (wrote an email earlier to her about how she loves peanut butter...It was in her profile, if you have talked to her before, you have to jog her memory abit)
Her: oh ya!!!! hahah excellent!
: yeah i rock
: whats going on its snowing like crazy outside
: i kno im at work tired as hell
: what do you do at work?
Me: probably makin trouble there
Her: how did u know
Me: just a good guesser
: or i am psychic
not sure yet
: lol maybe a combination
hahaha
if i only had the ninja skills
then i would be a triple threat
ya but i have a black belt sooo
but u never told me what u do at work?
: hahaha as long as we never actually fight, i will be alright
and i would fight dirty anyways
ohmm i might like that...haha umm i work at a car dealaership (she is going along with every joke, and is thinking on a subconscious sexual level)
so you are really good with your words?
oh yes
can i ask you a serious question
what did you want to be when you grew up (i like this question because it tells alot about a person, i.e. seriousness or laid back)
like when you were a little person
i wanted to be a therapist for a long time (she is unique and has motivation)
in what field?
: i dunno drugs or eating disorder or whatever really general (she could have faced these problems before)
thats admirable
: i wanted to be a ninja turtle (my signature answer)
but i found out i wasn't a turtle
: and no karate skills
so that dream went out the window
: so now what
psychology(this is what i am going to school for)
well i am working on some stuff in interpersonnal communication
: kinda helping guys with dating success and girls with confidence issues (telling girls this seems to go two ways, either good or bad, but you can always make the bad into good)
: oh ya? (hooked)
and how do u go about that
yeah, but i got to get going
Me: give me your number
Her: no (did not build enough rapport, but she is still interested)
alright (accept it for now, but you must go)
: ill ttyl (still interesed and wants to keep talking)
then shoot me a e-mail if you want to know more about me (she did, and we are still talking to this day)
kk
have a good day at work
i am going to die shoveling
aww ur hotfire tho u should melt it (IOI)
: i wish it was that easy
but it was a pleasure talking to you
hope to hear from you again
: later gator
bye hun
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Monday, January 5, 2009
Incase you didn't pull the trigger
If you ever find yourself in a situation where you are talking to a girl online and due to some circumstance you didn't get her number the first time talking to her, here's what I did....
Me: Hey
Her: hey not much just getting ready for bed.. you?
Me: just got home thinkin the same thing
Me: just got to write some stuff down (stuff for this very blog, knew she would give me my new post)
Me: how was your night
Her: lol meh my night was kind of lame... i had like a million ants in one of my bags that i found... so that was fun
Her: how was yours
Me: umm good
Me: went to ihop
Me: chilled there for like 3 hrs
Her: dang 3 hours lol
Me: yeah, i love eating breakfast and shooting the shit
Me: its a passion of mine (setting the tone of the conversation, its going to be alot of playful flirting)
Her: hahaha understandably
Me: you can try it sometime (showing that I am alpha and am allowing her to do something)
Me: it usually ends up being one big inside joke
Her: thanks for allowing me to try it
Her: i just may (accepting it)
Me: hey it can be our secret (great line to use, it usually gets a laugh and good rapport)
Her: thanks. i won't tell
Me: hahaha
Me: hows your break been thus far
Her: alright i suppose. i haven't had to do any school work, so that's nice
Me: thats always a positive (the word positive evokes better feelings than the normal phrase of "thats good" you have to be different and try different and new phrases)
Her: absolutely
Me: you ready to go back?
Her: hmm... negative degree weather, homework, tests, responsibility, doing my own laundry again... not really lol
Me: hahaha
Me: it can't be all that bad
Her: there's always a bright side haha
Me: haha
Me: so when do you go back
Her: friday
Me: really (this is the point of the conversation where you have to make it about you because the conversation is becoming to generic and you have to maintain interest and make attraction)
Me: u are doing a terrible job of attempting to hang out with me
Me: just to let u know
Her: lol (not expecting that at all, good element of surprise)
Me: i mean not even a call (even though you know that she does not have your number, make it seem like its all her fault and that she is missing out)
Me: thats pretty low (icing on the blame cake)
Her: i'm in california... so... i apologize but i feel like right now there's not much i can do about that (p.s. she is on vacation)
Her: lol
Her: um how would i call you (wants the number, and you didn't even have to ask)
Me: hahaha
Me: didn't u get my number?
Her: mm nope
Me: u should of just asked
Me: (this is the part where you ask) (i actually put that part in parehetheses, treat her kinda like a child)
Me: haha
Her: lol mmm i don't really like to ask for numbers (shit test)
Her: i feel like is shouldn't really make that much effort (she wants me to earn her number, but she will give it to you regardless)
Her: lol
Her: guys usually just throw their numbers upon me (wants you to take notice that she is selected by guys all the time, this is a filter to see if you are alpha)
Me: aren't u the modest one
Me: i like your swagger (most girls never hear a guy say this, it makes you different, a very good thing)
Her: and then they wait by their phones in desperate hopes that i might actually call
Her: even a text
(a normal guy would say 1 of 2 things, a) i am not like every guy, you should just give me your number b)i am not desperate, i can get any girl
the problems with that
a) you are giving her the power and you sound needy
b) if you sound cocky she isn't going to believe you.
(both of these options are beta male, you are above this)
Me: so are u saying i am like every guy (want her reasons for why she thinks i am beta)
Her: well you haven't given me your number, but otherwise i assume so lol
Me: haha
Me: my mom warned me about girls like you (great line use this when you can)
Her: oh really... what did she say about us
Me: she said you are bad girls, u might corrupt me
Her: ha! like i haven't heard that before
Her: mothers just don't want their boys to become men
Her: LOL (she wants you to be a man and to take control of this situation)
Me: hahahahaha
Her: that sounded more kinky than i meant it to lol
Me: i noticed
Me: get your mind out of the gutter (if you can call out a girl for being sexual, you reverse the frame and go on the defensive and she will come on to you)
Her: mmm...
Her: nah (she wasn't expecting that, very generic answer)
Me: i mean do u think i am a whore? (roll with this)
Her: probably (shit test)
Me: i don't just give it up
Her: doubt it
Me: no faith
Me: there is your problem
Me: lol (don't overuse the phrase lol, it like using "I" all the time)
Her: lol
Me: give me your number (command that she do it, this way you are alpha)
Her: a little demanding, don't you think? (this is a common response when they are seeing if you are worthy of being alpha)
Me: well i pursue what i want
Me: and i feel that if i beg and plead for your number
Me: that is actually really sad on my part (explaing the difference between alpha and beta behavior)
Me: i believe if you want something, you need to take it
Me: and not pussyfoot around it
Me: be more assertive
Me: ya know
Her: this is a pretty motivational response... i feel like i'll have to give you my number after such an explanation (because I displayed that I am alpha and do not accept second class behavior from girls, she knows that I am an alpha male)
Her: although i am a little more used to begging lol (beta behavior)
Me: i can't be needy
Me: its really a turnoff (took what most girls say and told her to not act this way)
Her: lol
Me: i am different
Her: i don't doubt that lol (she is very attracted to me, because I am unique)
Her: ok
Her: get a pen
Me: i will use my typewriter
Her: (number given)
Her: lol what
Me: who gets a pen? (call her out on things of this nature, she sounded like a dork)
Me: honestly
Her: lol
Her: shut up (playful flirting back at me)
Me: now i face a problem
Me: i need a name for you in my phone (best thing you can ask a girl, it makes them feel a sense of comfort that they gave their number to you)
Her: any name?
Me: and dork is overused (make her understand that it has to be creative)
Me: so u need a cool name
Her: jerk lol how about 'never going to answer your call' (flirting)
Me: thats kinda long
Me: got anything smaller
Me: i mean i just don't want to put geek or loser
Me: i need something funny
Her: something funny? lol
Me: yup
Me: think you can come up with something
Me: i know its tough (challenge her to do this, it will help)
Me: but play like a champ and suck it up
Her: ok well let me know when you think of something bc i don't really want to insult myself ha (she thinks she beat the question, that is not the case)
Me: well u are going to do this for me
Me: (my number given, MAKE SURE you give your number, it will help with building more rapport and they will actually know who it is when you call or text them)
Me: name is sex ninja
Me: hope you got your pen and paper (call her out for earlier comment)
Her: ok i'll get a pen lol
Her: sex ninja?
Me: yup (you must act confident and stick with your made up name)
Her: may i ask what your expectations are for these calls? lol (she wants to know if i am just looking for a hook up or something more)
Me: expectations
Me: ?
Me: i don't believe in expectations
Me: i feel everything needs to come natural (this is a philosophy of a person in the pua community and i apply it to my own life)
Me: otherwise i lose sight of everything i am really looking for
Me: like hanging out at an ihop for 3 hrs (an earlier comment)
Her: the things that truly matter (at this point i avoided the question and sounded like i was in control of my life, alpha male status is magnified)
Me: yeah pretty much
Me: it helps if your a cutie, but that is alittle shallow for me
Me: if you can give me a different perspective on things i find that very attractive (give her an idea of what kind of girl you are looking for mentally and spiritually)
Me: like that you actually think and speak your mind
Her: whose else would i speak?
Me: true, but i hate yes girls
Me: it is soooo boring to talk to yes girls
Me: i would love it if you would disagree with me lol
Her: lol
Me: come up with a name yet lol
Her: 'yes girl' (she busted my balls, but you want a girl that can keep you in check and be fun)
Her: lol
Me: hahaha
Me: i am going to hate you
Me: lol
Her: that's impossible
Her: everyone loves me!
Her: i'm amazing
Me: amazing is my word
Me: u can have phenomenal (i like this game i play with girls, it shows you have an intellect and you are different from other guys)
Her: you don't own it (if she argues this, she is attracted to you)
Me: look it up
Her: although i like phenomenal (hook, line, sinker)
Me: totally copyright
Me: how about fantastical (make up words, girls find this to be funny and it helps keep the conversation going in the right direction)
Me: u just can't take amazing
Me: lol
Her: mmm... that makes me think of glittery unicorns or something weird like that
Her: i will use amzing whenever i damn well please
Me: hahahaha yeah i bet you have those at your place
Me: you have like pictures of unicorns and all things that are mystical
Her: absolutely... tons... here at neverland ranch
Her: ew
Me: alright michael jackson
Her: lol
Me: i am not a 10 year old boy
Her: damn (she is going with the joke, a huge IOI)
Me: u can't touch this (another thing i could have said was "i don't think your ready for this jelly" sounds sooo stupid, but trust me its gold (thank you Suave))
Her: are you a 9 year old boy?
Me: maybe
Her: YESSSSSSS
Me: but i could be that guy from to catch a predator
Her: wait
Her: uh uh uh
Me: don't show up at my house with a 6 pack of mikes hard and condoms
Her: LOL
Me: just warning u
Her: no. um, no. i would never.
Me: something tells me your a creeper (make her out to be the one trying to pursue you and that she needs to be the alpha female)
Me: lol
Her: damn. you caught on to that?
Her: how obvious is it?
Me: really obvious, i can see right through u
Me: like plastic wrap
Her: damn. oh well... on to the next. haha
Me: I think i am going to bed (be the one that ends the conversation always)
Her: yeah i think i'm going, too.
Her: bed would be AMAZING right now
Me: hahahaha i am coming to california to fight u
Me: cage match
Her: mmm i wouldn't if i were you
Me: and give me a reason
Me: actually give me 3
Me: go
Her: you may be a sex ninja *coughyeahrightcough* but i can break you... in 24 different ways
Her: there are 24 reasons
Me: i am all ears and eyes
Her: i don't tell you. the element of surprise is what i do. (flirting and wants to continue the conversation)
Me: alright alice
Me: stop living in wonderland (heard this on parental advisory, thought it was a great line)
Her: good one. lol
Me: i am full of good analogies
Me: and ninja moves
Her: right
Me: i learned from mr. miagie himself
Her: well i'm going to bed since you're already dreaming (thinks she can out think me)
Me: karate kid right here
Me: no dreamin baby, i am the real deal holyfield
Her: ha
Her: well i'm foreman and i'll ko you while cooking lean burgers on my grill
Me: i am going to own you like boardwalk and park place
Me: u don't pass go on me lady
Me: its going to be like the dream team vs. Australia
Her: lol i've heard that until i show a little community chest and then i monopolize it all
Me: you don't stand a chance
Her: lol
Me: hahahaha
Me: you are going to be like the detroit lions, u just can' win
Me: u are a distraction, i should be in bed, but now i have to think about how badly i am going win this
Me: but i am outta here (if you get caught in a situation like this, you must end the conversation, an alpha male can walk away at anytime)
Her: ha well you think about that while actually go to bed
Her: haha
Her: goodnight, then
Me: maybe, only when you play your cards just right
Me: later have fun in cali
Me: dorkface (make sure you get the last laugh)
Me: hahaha
Her: jerkwad
Her: lol
Try some of this stuff in your daily life, trust me, thats how I learned too.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Me: Hey
Her: hey not much just getting ready for bed.. you?
Me: just got home thinkin the same thing
Me: just got to write some stuff down (stuff for this very blog, knew she would give me my new post)
Me: how was your night
Her: lol meh my night was kind of lame... i had like a million ants in one of my bags that i found... so that was fun
Her: how was yours
Me: umm good
Me: went to ihop
Me: chilled there for like 3 hrs
Her: dang 3 hours lol
Me: yeah, i love eating breakfast and shooting the shit
Me: its a passion of mine (setting the tone of the conversation, its going to be alot of playful flirting)
Her: hahaha understandably
Me: you can try it sometime (showing that I am alpha and am allowing her to do something)
Me: it usually ends up being one big inside joke
Her: thanks for allowing me to try it
Her: i just may (accepting it)
Me: hey it can be our secret (great line to use, it usually gets a laugh and good rapport)
Her: thanks. i won't tell
Me: hahaha
Me: hows your break been thus far
Her: alright i suppose. i haven't had to do any school work, so that's nice
Me: thats always a positive (the word positive evokes better feelings than the normal phrase of "thats good" you have to be different and try different and new phrases)
Her: absolutely
Me: you ready to go back?
Her: hmm... negative degree weather, homework, tests, responsibility, doing my own laundry again... not really lol
Me: hahaha
Me: it can't be all that bad
Her: there's always a bright side haha
Me: haha
Me: so when do you go back
Her: friday
Me: really (this is the point of the conversation where you have to make it about you because the conversation is becoming to generic and you have to maintain interest and make attraction)
Me: u are doing a terrible job of attempting to hang out with me
Me: just to let u know
Her: lol (not expecting that at all, good element of surprise)
Me: i mean not even a call (even though you know that she does not have your number, make it seem like its all her fault and that she is missing out)
Me: thats pretty low (icing on the blame cake)
Her: i'm in california... so... i apologize but i feel like right now there's not much i can do about that (p.s. she is on vacation)
Her: lol
Her: um how would i call you (wants the number, and you didn't even have to ask)
Me: hahaha
Me: didn't u get my number?
Her: mm nope
Me: u should of just asked
Me: (this is the part where you ask) (i actually put that part in parehetheses, treat her kinda like a child)
Me: haha
Her: lol mmm i don't really like to ask for numbers (shit test)
Her: i feel like is shouldn't really make that much effort (she wants me to earn her number, but she will give it to you regardless)
Her: lol
Her: guys usually just throw their numbers upon me (wants you to take notice that she is selected by guys all the time, this is a filter to see if you are alpha)
Me: aren't u the modest one
Me: i like your swagger (most girls never hear a guy say this, it makes you different, a very good thing)
Her: and then they wait by their phones in desperate hopes that i might actually call
Her: even a text
(a normal guy would say 1 of 2 things, a) i am not like every guy, you should just give me your number b)i am not desperate, i can get any girl
the problems with that
a) you are giving her the power and you sound needy
b) if you sound cocky she isn't going to believe you.
(both of these options are beta male, you are above this)
Me: so are u saying i am like every guy (want her reasons for why she thinks i am beta)
Her: well you haven't given me your number, but otherwise i assume so lol
Me: haha
Me: my mom warned me about girls like you (great line use this when you can)
Her: oh really... what did she say about us
Me: she said you are bad girls, u might corrupt me
Her: ha! like i haven't heard that before
Her: mothers just don't want their boys to become men
Her: LOL (she wants you to be a man and to take control of this situation)
Me: hahahahaha
Her: that sounded more kinky than i meant it to lol
Me: i noticed
Me: get your mind out of the gutter (if you can call out a girl for being sexual, you reverse the frame and go on the defensive and she will come on to you)
Her: mmm...
Her: nah (she wasn't expecting that, very generic answer)
Me: i mean do u think i am a whore? (roll with this)
Her: probably (shit test)
Me: i don't just give it up
Her: doubt it
Me: no faith
Me: there is your problem
Me: lol (don't overuse the phrase lol, it like using "I" all the time)
Her: lol
Me: give me your number (command that she do it, this way you are alpha)
Her: a little demanding, don't you think? (this is a common response when they are seeing if you are worthy of being alpha)
Me: well i pursue what i want
Me: and i feel that if i beg and plead for your number
Me: that is actually really sad on my part (explaing the difference between alpha and beta behavior)
Me: i believe if you want something, you need to take it
Me: and not pussyfoot around it
Me: be more assertive
Me: ya know
Her: this is a pretty motivational response... i feel like i'll have to give you my number after such an explanation (because I displayed that I am alpha and do not accept second class behavior from girls, she knows that I am an alpha male)
Her: although i am a little more used to begging lol (beta behavior)
Me: i can't be needy
Me: its really a turnoff (took what most girls say and told her to not act this way)
Her: lol
Me: i am different
Her: i don't doubt that lol (she is very attracted to me, because I am unique)
Her: ok
Her: get a pen
Me: i will use my typewriter
Her: (number given)
Her: lol what
Me: who gets a pen? (call her out on things of this nature, she sounded like a dork)
Me: honestly
Her: lol
Her: shut up (playful flirting back at me)
Me: now i face a problem
Me: i need a name for you in my phone (best thing you can ask a girl, it makes them feel a sense of comfort that they gave their number to you)
Her: any name?
Me: and dork is overused (make her understand that it has to be creative)
Me: so u need a cool name
Her: jerk lol how about 'never going to answer your call' (flirting)
Me: thats kinda long
Me: got anything smaller
Me: i mean i just don't want to put geek or loser
Me: i need something funny
Her: something funny? lol
Me: yup
Me: think you can come up with something
Me: i know its tough (challenge her to do this, it will help)
Me: but play like a champ and suck it up
Her: ok well let me know when you think of something bc i don't really want to insult myself ha (she thinks she beat the question, that is not the case)
Me: well u are going to do this for me
Me: (my number given, MAKE SURE you give your number, it will help with building more rapport and they will actually know who it is when you call or text them)
Me: name is sex ninja
Me: hope you got your pen and paper (call her out for earlier comment)
Her: ok i'll get a pen lol
Her: sex ninja?
Me: yup (you must act confident and stick with your made up name)
Her: may i ask what your expectations are for these calls? lol (she wants to know if i am just looking for a hook up or something more)
Me: expectations
Me: ?
Me: i don't believe in expectations
Me: i feel everything needs to come natural (this is a philosophy of a person in the pua community and i apply it to my own life)
Me: otherwise i lose sight of everything i am really looking for
Me: like hanging out at an ihop for 3 hrs (an earlier comment)
Her: the things that truly matter (at this point i avoided the question and sounded like i was in control of my life, alpha male status is magnified)
Me: yeah pretty much
Me: it helps if your a cutie, but that is alittle shallow for me
Me: if you can give me a different perspective on things i find that very attractive (give her an idea of what kind of girl you are looking for mentally and spiritually)
Me: like that you actually think and speak your mind
Her: whose else would i speak?
Me: true, but i hate yes girls
Me: it is soooo boring to talk to yes girls
Me: i would love it if you would disagree with me lol
Her: lol
Me: come up with a name yet lol
Her: 'yes girl' (she busted my balls, but you want a girl that can keep you in check and be fun)
Her: lol
Me: hahaha
Me: i am going to hate you
Me: lol
Her: that's impossible
Her: everyone loves me!
Her: i'm amazing
Me: amazing is my word
Me: u can have phenomenal (i like this game i play with girls, it shows you have an intellect and you are different from other guys)
Her: you don't own it (if she argues this, she is attracted to you)
Me: look it up
Her: although i like phenomenal (hook, line, sinker)
Me: totally copyright
Me: how about fantastical (make up words, girls find this to be funny and it helps keep the conversation going in the right direction)
Me: u just can't take amazing
Me: lol
Her: mmm... that makes me think of glittery unicorns or something weird like that
Her: i will use amzing whenever i damn well please
Me: hahahaha yeah i bet you have those at your place
Me: you have like pictures of unicorns and all things that are mystical
Her: absolutely... tons... here at neverland ranch
Her: ew
Me: alright michael jackson
Her: lol
Me: i am not a 10 year old boy
Her: damn (she is going with the joke, a huge IOI)
Me: u can't touch this (another thing i could have said was "i don't think your ready for this jelly" sounds sooo stupid, but trust me its gold (thank you Suave))
Her: are you a 9 year old boy?
Me: maybe
Her: YESSSSSSS
Me: but i could be that guy from to catch a predator
Her: wait
Her: uh uh uh
Me: don't show up at my house with a 6 pack of mikes hard and condoms
Her: LOL
Me: just warning u
Her: no. um, no. i would never.
Me: something tells me your a creeper (make her out to be the one trying to pursue you and that she needs to be the alpha female)
Me: lol
Her: damn. you caught on to that?
Her: how obvious is it?
Me: really obvious, i can see right through u
Me: like plastic wrap
Her: damn. oh well... on to the next. haha
Me: I think i am going to bed (be the one that ends the conversation always)
Her: yeah i think i'm going, too.
Her: bed would be AMAZING right now
Me: hahahaha i am coming to california to fight u
Me: cage match
Her: mmm i wouldn't if i were you
Me: and give me a reason
Me: actually give me 3
Me: go
Her: you may be a sex ninja *coughyeahrightcough* but i can break you... in 24 different ways
Her: there are 24 reasons
Me: i am all ears and eyes
Her: i don't tell you. the element of surprise is what i do. (flirting and wants to continue the conversation)
Me: alright alice
Me: stop living in wonderland (heard this on parental advisory, thought it was a great line)
Her: good one. lol
Me: i am full of good analogies
Me: and ninja moves
Her: right
Me: i learned from mr. miagie himself
Her: well i'm going to bed since you're already dreaming (thinks she can out think me)
Me: karate kid right here
Me: no dreamin baby, i am the real deal holyfield
Her: ha
Her: well i'm foreman and i'll ko you while cooking lean burgers on my grill
Me: i am going to own you like boardwalk and park place
Me: u don't pass go on me lady
Me: its going to be like the dream team vs. Australia
Her: lol i've heard that until i show a little community chest and then i monopolize it all
Me: you don't stand a chance
Her: lol
Me: hahahaha
Me: you are going to be like the detroit lions, u just can' win
Me: u are a distraction, i should be in bed, but now i have to think about how badly i am going win this
Me: but i am outta here (if you get caught in a situation like this, you must end the conversation, an alpha male can walk away at anytime)
Her: ha well you think about that while actually go to bed
Her: haha
Her: goodnight, then
Me: maybe, only when you play your cards just right
Me: later have fun in cali
Me: dorkface (make sure you get the last laugh)
Me: hahaha
Her: jerkwad
Her: lol
Try some of this stuff in your daily life, trust me, thats how I learned too.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Express Close
So where do I begin, I was in express (this is a great place for casual and classy clothing) just paying off my card. Standing in line, by the way, the checkout line is always long. I was just going to get in and out due to the fact that I looked like a guy going to the gym (adidas long pants and a hoodie). So of course being at the end of the line a woman approaches me and this is where the story goes
Her: Are you in line?
Me: For what?
Her: To check out?
Me: Oh wow.... (hook line)
Her: What?
Me: I thought this was the line for sabarro's, i am starving.
Her: Nope, this place doesn't sell pizza only clothes.
Me: Perfect, i can use some of those.
Me: Actually, do you think you can do me a huge favor? I don't know if you are up for the challenge....(Making her prove her worth)
Her: And that is?
Me: I need a really good looking shirt for my hot date tonight. Think you can come through in the clutch and help me out? (By saying I have a hot date, it gives her a sense of comfort thinking I am not just another guy hitting on her......)
Her: Well, where are you going to take her?
Me: I think a small restaurant I know about in the city, great Chinese food then maybe walk around the city and go from there.. (think of an ideal date because then she will think she is going out with you on this date)
Her: Well how about a button down?
Me: Well I can't give it all away on the first date, what kind of man do you think i am?
Her: Well what kind of guy are you? (Shit test #1)
Me: I am a man that knows what he wants, and actively pursues it, but I am a cuddle slut, I guess thats my downfall
Her: That was really cute (PASSED)
Me: (I grab a shirt from the rack, something crazy) What about this? Do you think I shows I am sophisticated?
Her: (Laughing) I think you look really good, in a goofy crazy way. (she thinks I am a humorous type of person)
Me: Well here is the deal, you grab 2 shirts and I will grab 2 shirts. Best shirt wins
Her: You are sooo going down
Me: Bring it on! (she went along with my game, i have good repore and she is interested)
(Try on my shirts)
Her: I think my shirts look the best! (trying to gain approval)
Me: So your saying if you saw me on the street in this, you would totally be all over me? (This is a key question, because now she sees you as a datable guy, and finds you attractive)
Her: Oh yeah.
Me: You are bad.
Her: Me? I am a good girl
Me: My parents might like you, but only if you can make cookies
Her: Whats your favorite cookie? (this is a question that tells you she is waiting for you to get her number)
Me: Macadamia nut, you think you could make those, cause i am a sucker for a good cookie. (shows you are interested in her, and you have given her an opportunity to win you)
Her: No, but i can learn. We can make them together (THIS MEANS SHE IS PLANNING ON SEEING YOU AGAIN)
Me: Well since your shirt won, you get a hug from me.
Her: That is a terrible prize (Playfully flirting and wants the hug)
Me: Well its either that or a high five, you know what you get both.
Her: I guess, but you totally owe me a better prize
Me: Well i should be going, I still have to get a good pair of jeans to go with this "amazing" shirt.
Her: Alright
Me: You have to do three things for me
Her: More commands? I got you a shirt what else do you need?
Me: You are going to give me another hug. (she does)
Me: You are going to give me your number
Her: Really slick. (she gives me her number)
Her: What is the third thing?
Me: I got nothing, well maybe you can buy me sabarros, i mean thats what i was in here for.
Her: Your funny.
(Later on that night I texted her about how the date went(even though there wasn't an actual date) and how I really just wanted to eat cookies)
I do have to say this, if you feel like picking up girls at a mall or something, go to places where cute girls shop. You aren't going to meet a 10 at a k-mart, she is usually shopping at a nicer store.
P.S.- After she left, i didn't even buy the shirt, i just needed to pay the bill.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Her: Are you in line?
Me: For what?
Her: To check out?
Me: Oh wow.... (hook line)
Her: What?
Me: I thought this was the line for sabarro's, i am starving.
Her: Nope, this place doesn't sell pizza only clothes.
Me: Perfect, i can use some of those.
Me: Actually, do you think you can do me a huge favor? I don't know if you are up for the challenge....(Making her prove her worth)
Her: And that is?
Me: I need a really good looking shirt for my hot date tonight. Think you can come through in the clutch and help me out? (By saying I have a hot date, it gives her a sense of comfort thinking I am not just another guy hitting on her......)
Her: Well, where are you going to take her?
Me: I think a small restaurant I know about in the city, great Chinese food then maybe walk around the city and go from there.. (think of an ideal date because then she will think she is going out with you on this date)
Her: Well how about a button down?
Me: Well I can't give it all away on the first date, what kind of man do you think i am?
Her: Well what kind of guy are you? (Shit test #1)
Me: I am a man that knows what he wants, and actively pursues it, but I am a cuddle slut, I guess thats my downfall
Her: That was really cute (PASSED)
Me: (I grab a shirt from the rack, something crazy) What about this? Do you think I shows I am sophisticated?
Her: (Laughing) I think you look really good, in a goofy crazy way. (she thinks I am a humorous type of person)
Me: Well here is the deal, you grab 2 shirts and I will grab 2 shirts. Best shirt wins
Her: You are sooo going down
Me: Bring it on! (she went along with my game, i have good repore and she is interested)
(Try on my shirts)
Her: I think my shirts look the best! (trying to gain approval)
Me: So your saying if you saw me on the street in this, you would totally be all over me? (This is a key question, because now she sees you as a datable guy, and finds you attractive)
Her: Oh yeah.
Me: You are bad.
Her: Me? I am a good girl
Me: My parents might like you, but only if you can make cookies
Her: Whats your favorite cookie? (this is a question that tells you she is waiting for you to get her number)
Me: Macadamia nut, you think you could make those, cause i am a sucker for a good cookie. (shows you are interested in her, and you have given her an opportunity to win you)
Her: No, but i can learn. We can make them together (THIS MEANS SHE IS PLANNING ON SEEING YOU AGAIN)
Me: Well since your shirt won, you get a hug from me.
Her: That is a terrible prize (Playfully flirting and wants the hug)
Me: Well its either that or a high five, you know what you get both.
Her: I guess, but you totally owe me a better prize
Me: Well i should be going, I still have to get a good pair of jeans to go with this "amazing" shirt.
Her: Alright
Me: You have to do three things for me
Her: More commands? I got you a shirt what else do you need?
Me: You are going to give me another hug. (she does)
Me: You are going to give me your number
Her: Really slick. (she gives me her number)
Her: What is the third thing?
Me: I got nothing, well maybe you can buy me sabarros, i mean thats what i was in here for.
Her: Your funny.
(Later on that night I texted her about how the date went(even though there wasn't an actual date) and how I really just wanted to eat cookies)
I do have to say this, if you feel like picking up girls at a mall or something, go to places where cute girls shop. You aren't going to meet a 10 at a k-mart, she is usually shopping at a nicer store.
P.S.- After she left, i didn't even buy the shirt, i just needed to pay the bill.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
Friday, January 2, 2009
Hunting the Cougar
I have learned a couple of tips and tactics to successfully tagging a cougar, and I would like to share a few of them.
1) BE PATIENT- I say this because most women over the age of 28 are not stupid, they want a man that can enrich their life not only physically but also mentally. Coming out and saying that you want to sleep with them or talking about your dong won't help the situation.
2) Its alright to be yourself- Do not act more mature than you are, these women can see through that and it actually makes things worse. Be yourself and these cougars will feel a sense of danger and excitement because of the fact that you are younger.
3) Must invest some time- Although anybody can pick up a girl from a bar and take them home that night, unless the cougar has decided this in advance, they are less likely to do so. They are over the whole "slutty" phase of their life and most want something more. Once I have invested about 3-4 days worth of repore, I usually set up a meeting.
4) Always set up the meeting at their place- This helps because a) they are comfortable in their own surroundings and can let go. b) most if not all women have their own place that are over the age of 26. This being said, I personally like to set up a movie and to guarantee that the touching escalates. The best line I have heard is "Just to let you know, i am a cuddleslut", this line is golden. If that doesn't work (which i haven't come across a girl who hasn't loved that line) then you still have to build repore.
5)Bring cologne- I usually wear curve, lacoste, dieasle: fuel for life, or dolche. A girl doesn't care if you are just hot, you have to intice all of her senses. Which brings me to my next point.
6) Excite all of her senses- Use her 5 senses against her, an exaple for all 5
1) sight- just like zz top says, every girls crazy about a sharp dressed man, wear something fun but something that looks good.
2) hearing- use your voice as a weapon, control your voice and with every word make it seem like it is a rollercoaster going from down to up back down, use pauses and control the yourself. Nobody understands a person that talks fast and nervous.
3) touch- this may sound alittle weird, but let her explore you. Grab her hand and caress it using your thumb or something, it lets her know that you find her attractive and that you do want her. When you do this, she will want to do the same to you, and will touch more of your body.
4) Smell- Make sure you smell good, best advice i can give you. If you are unsure of what smells a girl likes, go shopping for cologne with a woman. Trust me she will lead you in the right direction.
5) Taste- This means kissing, be gentle but aggressive. This is key.
7) Be respectful, but be a man- Once the said date happens, the older woman does not have a slut shield on like most women. When they are in their own place, they will let go completely. You might face the last minute resistance with the phrase "I can't believe i am doing this", but don't let that stop you. What she is saying is "i can't wait to do this, just don't think i do this alot". You now own everything, you can do what you want with her. If she does want to stop, you must listen to that, but after about 20 mins she should come on to you again. If you feel like your in a rut with it and you want to get over it, use as much touching and kissing of the neck and shoulders.
8) Hit the errogiouness zones- The neck, shoulders, hips, inner thighs, and the back. These are critical points that a girl will go crazy for. If you are kissing, touching, or grabbing these spots, a girl will know you are a excellent lover because you know things about her that most guys do not know and will become very horny and will skip the last second resistance. A woman will handle becoming easier to sleep with if she knows its going to be great sex.
9) A condom- THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE, always bring a condom. One may think that this is a set back if you are about to have sex with a girl you just met in this setting. Actually a older woman will respect you more because she knows you are safe, and prepared. A usual excuse that I use if i become interrogated about having a condom is, ''I bring a condom with me everywhere, it has helped my friends get laid so much" or "just wanted to be prepared, incase you took advantage of me". Either one is good. You can bring more than one condom, its alright.
With all these things in mind, you should have the weapons and tactics to get your own cougar.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
1) BE PATIENT- I say this because most women over the age of 28 are not stupid, they want a man that can enrich their life not only physically but also mentally. Coming out and saying that you want to sleep with them or talking about your dong won't help the situation.
2) Its alright to be yourself- Do not act more mature than you are, these women can see through that and it actually makes things worse. Be yourself and these cougars will feel a sense of danger and excitement because of the fact that you are younger.
3) Must invest some time- Although anybody can pick up a girl from a bar and take them home that night, unless the cougar has decided this in advance, they are less likely to do so. They are over the whole "slutty" phase of their life and most want something more. Once I have invested about 3-4 days worth of repore, I usually set up a meeting.
4) Always set up the meeting at their place- This helps because a) they are comfortable in their own surroundings and can let go. b) most if not all women have their own place that are over the age of 26. This being said, I personally like to set up a movie and to guarantee that the touching escalates. The best line I have heard is "Just to let you know, i am a cuddleslut", this line is golden. If that doesn't work (which i haven't come across a girl who hasn't loved that line) then you still have to build repore.
5)Bring cologne- I usually wear curve, lacoste, dieasle: fuel for life, or dolche. A girl doesn't care if you are just hot, you have to intice all of her senses. Which brings me to my next point.
6) Excite all of her senses- Use her 5 senses against her, an exaple for all 5
1) sight- just like zz top says, every girls crazy about a sharp dressed man, wear something fun but something that looks good.
2) hearing- use your voice as a weapon, control your voice and with every word make it seem like it is a rollercoaster going from down to up back down, use pauses and control the yourself. Nobody understands a person that talks fast and nervous.
3) touch- this may sound alittle weird, but let her explore you. Grab her hand and caress it using your thumb or something, it lets her know that you find her attractive and that you do want her. When you do this, she will want to do the same to you, and will touch more of your body.
4) Smell- Make sure you smell good, best advice i can give you. If you are unsure of what smells a girl likes, go shopping for cologne with a woman. Trust me she will lead you in the right direction.
5) Taste- This means kissing, be gentle but aggressive. This is key.
7) Be respectful, but be a man- Once the said date happens, the older woman does not have a slut shield on like most women. When they are in their own place, they will let go completely. You might face the last minute resistance with the phrase "I can't believe i am doing this", but don't let that stop you. What she is saying is "i can't wait to do this, just don't think i do this alot". You now own everything, you can do what you want with her. If she does want to stop, you must listen to that, but after about 20 mins she should come on to you again. If you feel like your in a rut with it and you want to get over it, use as much touching and kissing of the neck and shoulders.
8) Hit the errogiouness zones- The neck, shoulders, hips, inner thighs, and the back. These are critical points that a girl will go crazy for. If you are kissing, touching, or grabbing these spots, a girl will know you are a excellent lover because you know things about her that most guys do not know and will become very horny and will skip the last second resistance. A woman will handle becoming easier to sleep with if she knows its going to be great sex.
9) A condom- THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE, always bring a condom. One may think that this is a set back if you are about to have sex with a girl you just met in this setting. Actually a older woman will respect you more because she knows you are safe, and prepared. A usual excuse that I use if i become interrogated about having a condom is, ''I bring a condom with me everywhere, it has helped my friends get laid so much" or "just wanted to be prepared, incase you took advantage of me". Either one is good. You can bring more than one condom, its alright.
With all these things in mind, you should have the weapons and tactics to get your own cougar.
Stay Classy,
Hotfire
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