Cougar Hunting

I will be posting a new post soon about how to hunt a cougar through e-mail and instant messaging......

Stay Classy,
Hotfire

Getting out of a fight due to ditching or something better

I ditched this girl last week because something had come up and I wanted to do that, so i knew an argument about how I am an asshole and what not would come up, so this is what i did to avoid that....

Her: merry christmas to you too, butthead
Me: what the hell lady(taking the role of the angry person)
Me: did you fall off the face of the earth(putting her in a weird place because she is not expecting this at all)
Me: thats cool
Her: no, u did! (now thinking that she is in the wrong)
Me: no i called
Me: but no answer
Me: its cool
Her: what!
Her: i believe i called and texted you!
Her: and got nothin
Me: same here (she did text and call, but you can deny with not getting the messages, most phones have some problems with sending messages/phone went straight to voicemail)
Me: and i got nothing
Her: hmm
Her: thats weird
Her: i was mad at you for ditching me last week
Her: you were supposed to come over..remmeber?
Me: yeah and i called (called and i only made it to 1 ring)
Me: and no answer
Me: so i figured that if you wanted to grow up that you would (makes her sound like she was ditching you now)
Me: and that u would call me
Me: but again u didn't
Her: what?
Her: grow up? ok? (confused?you retain the alpha frame)
Me: i figured u were ditching me
Me: so i was mad at you
Her: ok..
Me: so are you ever going to call me?

Ends up calling me, i talk for a minute, tell her i have something to do really quick and tell her i will call back.......

Me: talk to me on this
Her: okay
Me: so yeah (make it seem like you are mad)
Her: are you still mad at me? i feel like this was a misunderstanding on both sides..
Me: i can get over it
Me: but u totally owe me (make her make it up to you)
Her: but i thought u were doing the same thing to me!
Me: yeah but i was really mad (get sympathy)
Me: and i thought you would never do something like that (cherry on top of all this, challenging her character)
Her: i dont know what you want me to say! im sorry for not getting your calls? (feels the heat, scrambles for an answer
Her: i would never intentionally do that to you
Her: if i didnt want to hang out with you i wouldnt invite you over
Me: well then we should fix that
Me: but i can't tonight or anything cause i have a flat tire (need an excuse to not sound needy, make her want to see you)
Her: okay
Her: well when do you want to get together?
Me: ummmm
Me: good question
Her: well
Me: i have to check my work
Me: and see when i am off
Her: ok
Me: but i would like to see u (come off as sensitive to her and her emotional side)
Her: and i would like to see you
Her: suga
Her: ;-)
Me: ur cute
Her: well thanks
Her: even though you're mad at me
Her: punkin (seeking my approval with cute pet names)
Her: ;-)
Me: i know right

And with that the fight is avoided and actually she is happy with you.....

Stay Classy,
Hotfire

This is a conversation from OKCUPID's version of instant messager

Me: hey whats up dorkasarus rex

Her: freezing in this chicago weather lol how about u?

Me: same,but i refuse to wear pants (setting the tone of the conversation)

Her: haha

Me: if i keep wearing shorts it will become summer again (shows my imagination and innocence)

Her: aww hunny im sorry to burst ur bubble but its not gunna be summer for a whiiile =P (she is now locked in for a conversation because i have caught her attention)

Me: i know, but it just sucks

Her: its -3 here =[

Me: it might be even colder here, thanks alot sweet baby jesus

Her: haha, you are something else (IOI(indicator of interest): this is like atleast 3 of those because every woman wants something out of the ordinary and this puts you in the alpha role because you do and say things you want because you are confident in yourself)

Me: must be my devistating good looks, but how was your day? (cocky and funny)

Her: well im a bit tired. slept at 5 this morning and woke up at 9 to clean the house lol. now im dreading to go out for christmas shopping lol

Me: wow thats kinda the same for me, don't do it you will get lost in the frozen tundra

Her: i have to take a risk lol (this is a great phrase because it tells me that she is willing to meet with me in the future)

Her: drifting in the snow with my awesome beat up car haha

Me: i thought i was actually frozen at one point, what kind of car do u have?

Her: my car is pretty awesome. 1999 nissan altima haha(she knows its not a great car, but wants to be playful)

Me: i think i got u beat.....1999 dodge stratus

Me: people fear me

Her: oh man,, that car is vicious (going along with what i said, she is role playing with me. this is another ioi)

Me: u just got to get to know it, then she purrs like a kitten

Me: or a panther that is kinda drunk

Her: haha, fine fine... u win

Me:thank god, i was worried for a second

Her:=P

Her:ur funny. i like that

Me: i am funny and don't take awhole lot seriously (give her alittle about yourself, you can be truthful and a woman will eat that up)

Me: basically perfect (another example of cocky and funny)

Her: lmao

Small talk about where she is from and how close it is to where i am from

Her: i work at sports authority in ****** lol

Me: really, aren't u just the coolest

Her: im in ****** everyday. sucks how my car eats up gas =[

Her: i AM the coolest(seeking approval, wants me to agree)

Me: oh yeah? i don't even believe that for a second

Her: well ur in denial( because i did not agree, she will try to act as if i am wrong in a playful way

Her: =]

Me: nope don't hate me cause u aint me

Her: oh please... im the one with the cute face haha

Me: well that is true (throwing in a compliment)

Me: but i am bringing sexy back lady(but with that compliment, i say that i am better looking, a backhanded compliment)

Her: oooooooo. damn u win again lol

Me: they call me jt(most girls love justin timberlake, anytime you can work him into a conversation it usually helps)

Her: lmao

Me: u sure like stalking my pictures don't u (one of the new features on okcupid.com is that when someone looks at your profile it tells you in like a box on the bottom of the page and in a section called my stalkers, i call her out on this)

Her: im not looking at ur pictures lol

Her: im lookin at the compare section and guess wat it says.. (another feature on this website)

Her: Hotfire********* is more cool

Her: =[

Me: that is priceless ( i now have leverage and she knows the alpha that i am, i can run with this topic)

Me: HAHAHA

Me: well if u hang with me you can be cool too (this tells her that she can be accepted by me)

Her: = [ i just never win!

Me: lol, but its cute when u try (this shows her that you are still interested and that you think that even when she is a dork its alright)

Her: [[blush]] oh shucks ( this response means "you are in my dating pool, not the friends zone)

Me: hahaha (this shows that because she has done that i am still this confident guy that does his own thing)

Her: so wat r u doin today? (the frame is reversed now, usually men would ask this question, but now she is eager to meet and go on from there)

Me: no idea yet

Me: are u tryin to seduce me? (this puts the sexuality on the table and makes her know that you are a sexual being)

Her: oh please... lol (although it looks negative, the lol means that she actually was thinking about it and she is going to deny it)

Her: dont be so full of urself =P (goes with what is said above)

Me: well i can always hope (not ruling her out as a hookup or dating material

Her: lol

Her: do u have aim?

Me: yes

Her: (her screen name)

Notice how she took over the frame as the needy one and how i kept the alpha frame and control and she asked for my aim, just be yourself and go with the flow.

Stay Classy,

Hotfire

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OKCUPID Game

This is an actual conversation (through email) from a girl i saw on OKCUPID, and i wanted to share with you some of my tactics

Me: I really liked reading your profile, but i got to ask you a serious question...do you really like the movie sandlot or are you just trying to be funny? (in her profile it said she like the movie "the sandlot)

Her: Haha thanks. And yes, I actually do like The Sandlot. Is there something wrong with that? :) (seeking my approval)

Me: no, i just think its cute...can i ask you a super serious question? (i set the alpha frame, and ask a question to make her eager to answer)

Her: Yes, although I don't promise that I'll answer... (a confidence test, to see if you are alpha)

Me: what did u want to be when you grew up? (One of my favorite questions)

Her: Hm. Good question. I'm kind of weird in that I never had something I really wanted to be. I guess I never thought about the future, which wouldn't surprise me since I tend to go with the flow. Also, I haven't really grown up yet, so I still have time to think about that. Haha :) What did you want to be?
(she is nervous to answer, because she does not want to scare me off if she answer wrong because i have set the alpha frame of the conversation, so she asks me the same question)

Me: ninja turtle, but i realize i don't know karate, and the fact i wasn't a turtle so those were some minor setbacks, but anyways...whats something you always wanted to do? (I usually say something along these lines to act playful and not take it seriously at all, i mean lets face it you have to have some humor in your life, women love that)

Her: What?!! Hahaha. That's freaking awesome. Just minor setbacks... I'm sure you could learn karate and the ninja ways as well as receive some kind of plastic surgery if you still want to follow those dreams. Don't let anything hold you back. haha :)

I changed my mind a lot. There wasn't really anything that I always wanted to do. I remember at one point I wanted to work for NASA after our class took a field trip where we did some role play. I saved the astronauts from an emergency and thought it was the coolest thing ever. I think that was the longest lasting goal, but that changed long ago. I also wanted to be a wedding singer at one point when I was younger (lame, I know).

I knew that I would own at least one dog my entire life. Haha. That's really the only thing.
(Because she understands that i am playful and confident, she answers the question and even tells me something about her that most people don't know, she has instilled trust and now you can ask for a s/n or a phone number)

Me: Well after seeing it that way, i mean the painful surgeries and the green skin....i think i would look friggin sexy. So you can sing? you should serenade me with your Celine Dion voice. What kind of dog do you have? I use to have a dog, his name was Superdog, he rocked my socks off. (she mentioned she wanted to be a wedding singer, so i again pick up on that and run with it, she talks about having a dog, and we share interest. This is the point where you know that it is on)

Her: Guaranteed sexiness, although I've heard it's not easy being green. :) People tell me I have a good voice, but they also apparently tell that to those people who get laughed at on American Idol. I think I'm ok... but I'm no Celine Dion haha. Superdog? I'm pretty sure that's the most badass name ever. I have an Australian Shepherd and an Irish Setter. Well, the shepherd is mine. She's the best. The setter's my mom's and she's insane. And kind of dumb. lol
(She is locked in, and it is time for you to ask for a number or a s/n and go from there to where you can set up a meeting)

Me: who told you that, was it leo? i will pimp slap him later....give me your number.

Her: (number given)

Stay Classy,
Hotfire

Finally Here!

Welcome to Hotfire's Dating Success, hope to hear from you all very soon. Feel free to ask me any questions and inquiries about dating and social scene