Hotfire's Dating Success

This is a conversation from OKCUPID's version of instant messager

Me: hey whats up dorkasarus rex

Her: freezing in this chicago weather lol how about u?

Me: same,but i refuse to wear pants (setting the tone of the conversation)

Her: haha

Me: if i keep wearing shorts it will become summer again (shows my imagination and innocence)

Her: aww hunny im sorry to burst ur bubble but its not gunna be summer for a whiiile =P (she is now locked in for a conversation because i have caught her attention)

Me: i know, but it just sucks

Her: its -3 here =[

Me: it might be even colder here, thanks alot sweet baby jesus

Her: haha, you are something else (IOI(indicator of interest): this is like atleast 3 of those because every woman wants something out of the ordinary and this puts you in the alpha role because you do and say things you want because you are confident in yourself)

Me: must be my devistating good looks, but how was your day? (cocky and funny)

Her: well im a bit tired. slept at 5 this morning and woke up at 9 to clean the house lol. now im dreading to go out for christmas shopping lol

Me: wow thats kinda the same for me, don't do it you will get lost in the frozen tundra

Her: i have to take a risk lol (this is a great phrase because it tells me that she is willing to meet with me in the future)

Her: drifting in the snow with my awesome beat up car haha

Me: i thought i was actually frozen at one point, what kind of car do u have?

Her: my car is pretty awesome. 1999 nissan altima haha(she knows its not a great car, but wants to be playful)

Me: i think i got u beat.....1999 dodge stratus

Me: people fear me

Her: oh man,, that car is vicious (going along with what i said, she is role playing with me. this is another ioi)

Me: u just got to get to know it, then she purrs like a kitten

Me: or a panther that is kinda drunk

Her: haha, fine fine... u win

Me:thank god, i was worried for a second

Her:=P

Her:ur funny. i like that

Me: i am funny and don't take awhole lot seriously (give her alittle about yourself, you can be truthful and a woman will eat that up)

Me: basically perfect (another example of cocky and funny)

Her: lmao

Small talk about where she is from and how close it is to where i am from

Her: i work at sports authority in ****** lol

Me: really, aren't u just the coolest

Her: im in ****** everyday. sucks how my car eats up gas =[

Her: i AM the coolest(seeking approval, wants me to agree)

Me: oh yeah? i don't even believe that for a second

Her: well ur in denial( because i did not agree, she will try to act as if i am wrong in a playful way

Her: =]

Me: nope don't hate me cause u aint me

Her: oh please... im the one with the cute face haha

Me: well that is true (throwing in a compliment)

Me: but i am bringing sexy back lady(but with that compliment, i say that i am better looking, a backhanded compliment)

Her: oooooooo. damn u win again lol

Me: they call me jt(most girls love justin timberlake, anytime you can work him into a conversation it usually helps)

Her: lmao

Me: u sure like stalking my pictures don't u (one of the new features on okcupid.com is that when someone looks at your profile it tells you in like a box on the bottom of the page and in a section called my stalkers, i call her out on this)

Her: im not looking at ur pictures lol

Her: im lookin at the compare section and guess wat it says.. (another feature on this website)

Her: Hotfire********* is more cool

Her: =[

Me: that is priceless ( i now have leverage and she knows the alpha that i am, i can run with this topic)

Me: HAHAHA

Me: well if u hang with me you can be cool too (this tells her that she can be accepted by me)

Her: = [ i just never win!

Me: lol, but its cute when u try (this shows her that you are still interested and that you think that even when she is a dork its alright)

Her: [[blush]] oh shucks ( this response means "you are in my dating pool, not the friends zone)

Me: hahaha (this shows that because she has done that i am still this confident guy that does his own thing)

Her: so wat r u doin today? (the frame is reversed now, usually men would ask this question, but now she is eager to meet and go on from there)

Me: no idea yet

Me: are u tryin to seduce me? (this puts the sexuality on the table and makes her know that you are a sexual being)

Her: oh please... lol (although it looks negative, the lol means that she actually was thinking about it and she is going to deny it)

Her: dont be so full of urself =P (goes with what is said above)

Me: well i can always hope (not ruling her out as a hookup or dating material

Her: lol

Her: do u have aim?

Me: yes

Her: (her screen name)

Notice how she took over the frame as the needy one and how i kept the alpha frame and control and she asked for my aim, just be yourself and go with the flow.

Stay Classy,

Hotfire